Therapy takes courage. We all have fears; admitting them, confronting them and allowing them to be part of the awareness, but not keep you from looking at them, takes bravery.
Every day, the people who come to me for therapy inspire me. These fiercely courageous people:
- Are able to ask for and receive help.
- Are willing to unflinchingly study their own personal behavior or sexual history.
- Examine beliefs and traumas honestly, and can repair and grow from the answers.
- Own their mistakes and learn from them.
- Recognize that trying to be someone they aren’t is unfulfilling and does not nourish their soul.
- Practice new ways of being in the real world.
- Work a strong program of recovery. They go to meetings, make the calls, do the written step work and find the serenity the program offers when they do.
- Demonstrate a willingness to learn how to re-establish trust in their relationships with other people.
- Take back control of their lives and are committed to facing issues.
Above all, I’m inspired by those who learn to set clear boundaries, who can articulate their beliefs, are willing to challenge them and then keep what they need and leave the rest – with or without my approval. It is, after all, your life and I am just a guide.